Update all references across docs, examples, and configuration files to
use the shorter `extras` feature name.

Introduce `might_be_async` as a workspace dependency, add it to
`mingling_core`, and regenerate all Cargo.lock files accordingly.
Multiple examples and test packages also pick up a newly transitive
`equivalent` crate.

Replace the `builds` feature with `build` across the crate, keeping
a backward-compatible alias for the old name.  Update all internal
visibility from `#[doc(hidden)] pub mod` to `pub(crate) mod` and
reorganize the `__private` module into a dedicated `private.rs`.

fields

Declare `Grouped` as `unsafe trait` to make its soundness invariant
visible.
Make `AnyOutput.type_id` and `member_id` private; add public accessors
and
the `unsafe fn new_bare` constructor.

Remove `Deref<Target=str>` and `render_text:String` in favor of
`render_buffer:Vec<(String, RenderResultMode)>` and an
`immediate_output`
flag. Add `RenderResultMode` enum, `r_eprint!`/`r_eprintln!` macros, and
new buffer manipulation methods (`append_to_buffer`, `eprint`, etc.).
Update `Display` to trim output and remove trailing newline. Migrate all
callers and tests away from `Deref` usage.